Aibor Wisdom declared wanted in Afuako, Edo State, Nigeria for mother's death

There is a particular situation of note in the Edo State region of Nigeria where one Aibor Wisdom Ehizojie grew upin the disgusting ambiguity of not knowing his real father, yet had to face the vicissitudes of life with a mother bittered by the thought of her husband that disappeared into thin air. Aibor Wisdom Ehizojie grew up in the confines of a small village of Afuakor, in Esan central, with his mother, Miss Justina, who make ends meet to feed and take care of him.

As a man, one begins to find answers to the tough questions and situations around him. At this time, Aibor Wisdom Ehizojie decided to get to the root of the problem surronding the mystery of his missing father shortly after he purchased a shop/small office to sell some accessories. Unfortunately, Murphy's law came knocking at his door. Murphy's law states that "If anything can go wrong, it will."

On 23/11/2014 his shop was burned down by fire through electrical connections inside his shop and the whole goods and the building was burnt down seriously and he was held responsible for it because the fire came through my shop to the whole building and the landlord of the building said that he most pay for the whole damage and he was arrested.

Shortly after the ugly incident, his mother died on 6/12/2014. and his community believed he was the one that killed his mother. He is declared most wanted for his mother's death

NEW TECHNIQUES FOR FINDING YOUR TRUE LOVE

In their new book Love for Grown-ups: The Garter Brides’ Guide to Marrying for Life When You’ve Already Got a Life, the Garter Brides (Ann Blumenthal Jacobs, Tish Rabe and Patricia Ryan Lampl), a sisterhood of girlfriends who wore the same garter at their weddings, offers lots of tips for women over 40, including how to meet and marry the man of your dreams, and how to have the life you want and the happiness you deserve! Here are their top ten tips:

1. Leave the past in the past
When you meet someone new, leave any negative feelings or past heartbreaks just where they should be—in the past.

2. You won’t meet someone new in your living room
Well, maybe a cute guy will deliver your new sofa, but chances are you’re going to meet someone by getting out there and trying new things—online dating, taking a class, etc. Tell everyone, especially your married friends, that you’re looking to meet someone and ALWAYS go to parties. Because you truly never know who you’ll meet.

3. Give the guy a chance
When you were 20 your list was “he must be tall, dark and handsome.” Try going against type. It just might be a perfect fit.

4. Look at blind dates like a first date
Two of the authors of our book met their husbands on blind dates, and you can too! If you’re not sure you want to sit in a noisy restaurant, go out and do something fun. One of our Garter Brides went to a baseball game, and she and her date each brought a friend. They had a blast and got married one year later.

5. Time is on your side
Take your time in getting to know your guy and don’t feel in a rush to meet his children or have him meet yours. It starts with the two of you. Make sure this is someone you want in your life.

6. Isn’t it romantic?
Just because you’re meeting the love of your life later in life doesn’t mean you can’t still have passionate, amazing sex! The Garter Brides say “Go for it!”

7. Someone to come home to
When you’re ready to move in together you will discover how wonderful it is to come home to the one you love. Be prepared for some give and take—for example, over which of each others’ belongings stay or go.

8. What’s up with a pre-nup?
Remember that a pre-nup isn’t because you think your marriage isn’t going to work—it’s so you get to decide how your assets and everything you’ve worked for can be protected.

9. Your wedding, your way
Now you’re in love and it’s time to have your wedding exactly how you want it. The Garter Brides have had all kinds of weddings! Remember it is all about you and the man of your dreams. Whatever you want is the way to go.

10. Happily ever after can happen to you
Remember what the Garter Brides always say: “It’s never too late to find true love. We did, and you can too!’

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EXCELLENT TIPS FOR DATING A YOUNGER GUY/GIRL

So you're a cougar.

Pretty awesome, right? I mean, Demi Moore did it (and yeah, it didn't work out well with Ashton, but it happens). Still, the whole world watched in awe as a hot older woman managed to snag a younger, sexy bachelor. Since then, the word "cougar" has been tossed around to and fro, in everything from everyday life to television to movies.

Cougar is now more synonymous with "sexy" than it is with "animal," which probably pisses off zoos to no end.

Here are some tips for being a cougar and dating younger dudes.

1) He's not as experienced as you. Some people find that to be a turn-off, but most good cougars know that inexperience means an eagerness to learn.

2) He's got a few tricks up his sleeves. Cougars, pay attention: just because your dude isn't in your age bracket doesn't mean he doesn't have the capacity to teach you some delicious new tricks.

3) He's got more free time. More time with your younger dudes means that cougars get more time to communicate with their partner. He's not all caught up in work and life and stuff, so he's able to listen to you. Bonus!

4) Remember this: maturity. No, I don't mean the AARP discount, I mean that cougars are able to smell bullshit a mile away, so if you're dating a younger dude, you're going to be much more able to spot any problems coming down the line.

5) Bonus! Sex drive. Women reach their sexual peak later in life than men do, which means that a younger guy is more likely to have the same banging sex drive you do.

6) Live it up. Sure, you're more mature and experienced, but sometimes it's still pretty awesome to be able to let loose and get down and dirty! Let your younger guy remind you of the fun you should be having.

7) Futurama. No one wants to think about "the future" talk until they're certain they know what they want. So it's important to be upfront and communicate with your guy about what it is you're looking for. And if it's a casual fling? Awesome! So be it!

8) Ignore the haters. We all aim to lead a life without shame in it; a life where we feel free. If you're an older sexy woman dating a younger dude, it's probable that you're going to wind up hearing some fairly nasty things. Don't let this be something that defines your relationship -- enjoy it for what it is. No one can deny your feelings. No one.

9) Change of rules. Cougars are used to being treated a certain way in a relationship because, well, it's what you grew up with. However, just because your younger guy doesn't follow the same rules doesn't mean he's rude. He just follows a separate set of dating rules.

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FIVE BLUNDERS THAT LEAD TO DIVORCE

Having been divorced myself and gone through countless number of relationships that have not worked, I definitely know what mistakes to avoid to make the relationship work.

Below are some of the mistakes I've made and my clients have made that you should avoid:

1. You ignore issues as a couple. This is probably the worst thing you can do. Sticking your head in the sand around the issues you may have in your relationship is not the way to go. The unexpressed feelings will slowly but surely start eating away at you, and over a period of time, what seemed like small annoyances will transform into massive resentments. And then before you know it, you're hating your partner because you cannot put up with it anymore. I know this very well, as I have been there myself. Before my divorce, this is the exact state of denial that led to the demise of our relationship. I did not know how to express how I was feeling and my ex-husband simply didn't want to hear it. The problem got bigger and bigger, and before we knew it, we stopped trusting one another and the relationship broke down completely.

Instead, deal with issues as they come up. Just like when you clean your home, if you keep dusting away the cobwebs, you will create a consistently clean environment.

2. You don't work on the relationship. Somehow, we seem to think intimate relationships will run on their own fuel without putting much effort into them. This is simply not true! A relationship needs work -- just as a car needs fine-tuning.

At the very least, understand how relationships work; and at the very most, work on yourself and what you bring to the relationship. Healthy and fulfilling relationships happen from the inside out. I made this mistake and paid dearly for it. I kept wanting to change my ex-husband, thinking he was the problem, when in fact, it was me all along! Work on you first; learn about how relationships work and the rest will follow.

3. You don't learn how to effectively communicate. As I've already mentioned, good communication is one of the cornerstones of creating a fulfilling relationship. However, there's a right way to fight and a wrong way to fight. Resorting to "blame and shame" tactics will destroy any trust you've built and while it's a normal defense mechanism, all it does is result in the attacked spouse shutting down.

In my first marriage, I used this tactic all the time, which only caused heartache and disconnection. Learn to communicate clearly, listen intently and give yourself the time and space to do so safely. If not, divorce will be imminent.

4. You don't spend enough time together. One of the other cornerstones to any successful relationship is giving yourself the time to connect with one another. If you are not giving yourself the time to do this, then you will feel disconnected and distant.

This is also one of the biggest errors I made in my own marriage. Before I knew it, my ex-husband and I were completely disconnected and were living parallel lives, which exacerbated our differences as opposed to highlighting our similarities.

Go for walks together, put time in your calendar for a date night, go away without cell phones together. Talk, laugh and above all, create memories if you want to avoid going down the rocky road of divorce.

5. You don't delegate jobs. Living with another person can drive us insane. Messy people end up marrying neat people and unhealthy people marry healthy people. Whatever the scenario, there are going to be guaranteed differences in how two people live. What ends up happening is one person in a relationship feels resentful about the fact that they had to carry the load in their relationship.

For example, arguments about cleaning used to happen regularly in my household. Now, we just delegate the work to someone who loves doing it! She gets what she wants and we do too. Does it cost money? Sure it does. Does it save us time and arguments? Yes, and we'll end up saving on divorce bills too.

To avoid going down the rocky road of divorce, you will need to confront the brutal facts, learn to communicate properly, work on the relationship, spend time together and delegate the jobs you don't want to do to someone that does. It may sound like a lot of work, but it beats the heartbreak of signing divorce papers.


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CREATING AN ELECTRIFYING ATMOSPHERE OF LOVE

 

Love is not just a feeling you feel when you feel that you are feeling something that you have not felt before. Deep in the chambers of our heart is that desire to get something and aim for something different when we have had enough of what we presently have.

It is normal to look at your partner and suddenly realize that your once prince charming or queen Cinderella does not make your pulse rise again. The same person was meant all to you in the world now looks like a platonic friend. In the light of this, it is normal, if you will agree with me, that love at the initial stage is a coincidence, and when complacency sets in, it requires commitment.

Don't get it twisted. Love is created with your words, your moods, feelings and action.

 

Here are ways to create an atmosphere of love for your wife in your home.

 

• Respectfully communicate with her
• Let her know he’s important to you.
• Purposefully try to understand her feelings—even when you disagree with her
• Show interest in her friends giving her some time with them if they’re trust-worthy.
• Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s.
• Tell her you both love her AND like her.
• Either show interest in her hobbies or allow her space to participate freely
• Protect her dignity on a daily basis.
• When confronting her, realize her has feelings also.
• Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.

Here are some tips on creating an atmosphere of love for your husband with your actions

• Make him homemade soup when he’s sick.
• Look your best—dress to honor him and make him proud to be seen with you when you’re out together.
• Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheer leader.
• Don’t disagree with him in front of the children.
• Take him for a weekend get-away without the children.
• Cheer his successes whether in business or in other areas of everyday living.
• Graciously teach him how to demonstrate his love for you.
• Give him coupons to redeem—maybe for a back scratch or a shoulder rub.
• Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet.
• Hide notes for him around the house where only he will find them.
• Thank him for just being himself.

Other tips for creating an atmosphere of love in your home

A marriage takes work. Listen to your spouse, don't interrupt or invalidate what they are saying. Listening means truly absorbing what your spouse is saying - if you are mentally planning what you are going to say next then you are not listening.

Remember, service and love are inherently connected. Whatever you know your partners needs, that is what you should be doing to love him or her. The moment you start insisting on your way or doing what you want, you stop showing love to your spouse. A marriage or relationship isn't just about you, love is a partnership, you put your partner's needs first. You should want to take care of them, protect them and ensure their happiness above all else.

Take your partner out to different places such as out for dinners, movies, picnics,or vacation. Don't go to places you went with your exes this may be awkward for both of you. Go to new places, learn new things. Learning new things together helps build the relationship and helps you learn about each other.

You can make mistakes in love, which is why forgiveness is such a vital part of your marriage. However, people often relate constant infidelity and lying as a mistake. Infidelity is a choice, not a mistake. A mistake is a an argument over something petty, not being considerate enough, forgetting something your loved one asked you to do not lying or infidelity. If you are a forgiving person, you are more likely to be forgiven.

For men, attend to details whenever your wife gets dressed up for any event by picking out anything new and praise it. When you are shopping with her, show her some of the available options (according to her taste) and if you don't like what she picks up, never express your dislike.

Go the extra mile for them. The modern world has made us busy; we're constantly doing stuff, and we never seem to have enough time to do it. Can you go out of your way to help your spouse do something that they need to do, that they dislike doing, or merely something they'd appreciate?

Trust your partner to be by him/herself. Unless there's a history of infidelity, trust your partner to make responsible, loving decisions in your absence. If they're out for beers with friends, or at a bachelorette party, trust them. They'll be surprisingly likely to honor your trust if you actually extend it.

A little physical affection goes a long way. Guys don't often show physical affection, and sometimes a little gesture like a kiss on the neck or a spontaneous embrace is just what she needs. Don't think of it as reassurance; think of it as reaching out.

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